The Big Day
You may think this is weird, but I never grew up dreaming about my "perfect wedding day". The traditional wedding thing -- walking down the aisle, 500 guests, big dress, tuxes, flowers -- not a big deal to me. I'm not saying wedding ceremonies aren't special, just that I should be able to get married by Elvis if I want.
I pose this question in a Carrie Bradshaw-isque way... Is the modern-day wedding more for the friends and family of the couple getting married? John and I are very low key people and talked about being married in a civil service with just family instead of a big wedding extravaganza. The other day, my friend, Linda, was trying to persuade me to have a wedding ceremony to include all our (mine and John's) friends and family as I would probably regret not having ALL the people we love around us to witness the special occasion. Isn't the celebration of that wedding (a party or reception) just as special and meaningful?
So, here I am, trying to come up with a way to make everyone happy. I know, I know. I'll never be able to make "everyone" happy. Stay tuned for the continuing wedding saga...
posted by Jal J @ 7:58 PM
3 Comments:
My cousin Chris took his wife and their best friends (best man & maid of honor) to an island and the four of them stood there while Chris & Kelly got married. No family, no other friends... just them & a priest. They came back after their honeymoon and had a smallish reception for the close friends and family.
To answer your question (even though I don't know who Carrie Bradshaw is): A wedding is more for the parents to show off than anything else. Historically it was a huge deal to propogate the information that so-and-so now belonged to so-and-so. Since you two are living in the info age, go to Vegas, get married by Elvis, and host a wine & cheese reception a few weeks later!
Damn, bill, you were thinking the same thing I was... Vegas & Elvis. However, I'll go as far as suggesting a wedding at the drive-through window of the chapel to totally immerse yourselves in the modern word.
Just elope. Weddings are a big source of stress and tension for all involved.
Of course you do not want to piss the parents off, so I would get their opinion on it.
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